10 Tips for Building a Strong Relationship with Your Surrogate
One of the most essential aspects of the surrogacy journey is the relationship between intended parents and their surrogate. While every partnership looks different, clear communication, mutual trust, and respect make the experience rewarding for everyone involved.
Here are 10 practical tips for building a strong, lasting connection with your surrogate:
1. Start With Open Communication
From the outset of your journey, we will partner with you on how to be clear about your hopes, values, and expectations, and we will facilitate opportunities for your surrogate to do the same. Honest conversations set the tone for a healthy relationship.
2. Respect Boundaries
Every surrogate has her own comfort level with communication, visits, and involvement. Ask what feels right for her, and share your own boundaries too.
3. Celebrate Together
From the first ultrasound to major milestones, we welcome and encourage you to share in the excitement of your pregnancy. Small gestures, like sending flowers after a milestone or important appointment, show appreciation and joy.
4. Be Flexible
Pregnancy can be unpredictable. Lead with curiosity, and approach challenges with patience and a willingness to adapt when plans need to shift.
5. Show Gratitude Often
A simple “thank you” goes a long way. Regularly acknowledge your surrogate’s generosity and commitment to helping your family grow.
6. Include Her Family (If She Wants)
Some surrogates like their partners or children to feel like part of the journey. Respect her wishes and, when appropriate, extend kindness to her loved ones too.
7. Use Professional Support
Agencies and counselors can help navigate sensitive conversations. Don’t hesitate to lean on the experts to keep communication smooth.
8. Keep Things Personal, Not Just Procedural
It’s easy to focus only on medical updates, but sharing parts of your daily life or asking about hers builds a genuine human connection.
9. Plan for the Post-Birth Transition
After delivery, your surrogate may need space, rest, or emotional support, and you are going to have your hands full!. Be mindful of her recovery and continue to express appreciation even after your baby is home. Lean on your team to help you establish a cadence of communication that works for your needs in the fourth trimester, too.
10. Think Long-Term
Some intended parents and surrogates remain lifelong friends, while others naturally grow apart. Either way, focusing on gratitude ensures a positive foundation.
At its heart, surrogacy is about partnership. When intended parents and surrogates invest in mutual trust and compassion, the journey becomes more than a process, it becomes a shared story of circle of connection.
At Cove Family Co., we believe strong relationships are the cornerstone of a meaningful surrogacy journey. Ready to begin your journey with compassion and confidence? Join our Collective.
