Build the Bridge: A Surrogate’s Guide to Connecting with Intended Parents
Carrying a baby for another family is one of the most generous gifts you can give. For intended parents, though, it can sometimes feel difficult to stay connected to a pregnancy they aren’t physically experiencing. As a surrogate, you have the unique opportunity to help them feel involved and reassured during this life-changing journey.
Here are some simple, thoughtful ways to build that connection:
1. Communicate About Comfort Levels
Every surrogate and family dynamic is different. We’ll help you facilitate those conversations around comfortable communication early in the process, so everyone starts off on the same page. Talk about what you’re comfortable sharing, and invite them to do the same. Clear boundaries around communication creates trust on both sides.
2. Share Regular Updates
A quick text before and after an appointment here, a note about how you’re feeling there - these touch points can mean the world to intended parents. Small, mindful updates help them feel present and included.
3. Invite Them Into Milestones
Talk to your intended parents about how they’d like to be included in special moments, like ultrasounds or gender reveals. Even if they can’t attend in person, sharing a video call or sending photos helps them celebrate your mutual milestones.
4. Celebrate Together
Help them feel like partners in the journey by celebrating milestones, whether it’s the end of the first trimester or a healthy checkup. A small gesture, like a note or a photo, can make them feel deeply connected.
5. Share the Little Things
It’s easy to focus only on medical updates, but everyday experiences matter, too. Sharing when the baby kicks for the first time, funny food cravings, or how you’re preparing for an appointment helps intended parents imagine the journey more vividly.
6. Be Honest When Things Feel Hard
Pregnancy can be emotional and unpredictable. Being transparent about challenges allows intended parents to support you, strengthening your bond.
7. Remember the Big Picture
At the heart of surrogacy is a shared dream: bringing a child into the world. Keeping that shared goal in focus makes every interaction more meaningful.
Through your updates and connection, intended parents can feel the excitement and wonder of the journey right alongside you, and get to be truly involved in their baby’s earliest chapter.
At Cove Family Co., we believe surrogates and intended parents thrive when they walk this path together. Considering becoming a surrogate? Learn how Cove Family Co. supports you, and the families you help to grow, at every step.
